Thursday, May 24, 2012

Life Isn't Fair

There is so much talk about how unfair it is when people get sick or go through something hard.  I get so tired of hearing about it.  As soon as my children were old enough to start envying each other over a bigger piece of birthday cake or a cooler Christmas present I started explaining to them the reality of life. Life isn't fair.  I don't want them to grow up with a sense of self entitlement.  I don't want them to be devastated every time something bad happens because they don't think they deserve for bad things to happen to them.  When bad things happen, I want them to look at that bad situation and decide to turn it into good.  If they are too focused on pitying themselves because they are victims, life will be miserable and unfulfilling.

Through this experience I am going through, I want my kids to see me practice what I have preached.  I am not a victim of breast cancer.  I am a just a person living life.  Life is unfair.  Do I feel like it is unfair that I have breast cancer?  No.  It's just a part of life.  We go through hard things.  It is what it is.  It's not an issue of whether or not I deserve to have to go through this.  This is life and life is hard.  What I choose to do with the hard things in life is to set the best example for my children that I can. What I want my children to see is me trusting the Lord with my life.  I want them to see me praising Him for all the other blessings that have been showered upon me.  I want them to see me come out on the other end of this a different woman.  I want them to see how God can use a bad situation and turn it into good.  I want them to see me take this hard time in my life and use it as an opportunity to grow and become closer to the Lord.


  1. This is so beautifully written, and touching. I have tears. I admire your honesty, openness, your grace and wisdom... you are setting an example for so many, myself included.

    1. Thank you Laura. I appreciate your comments so much. I actually feel blessed that people care enough to take the time to read what I have to say. :)

  2. Once the tears cleared, I wanted to tell you that your words really hit me. I think about and pray for you and your family often. I admit that I think about how scared you had to have been when you heard those words, then I think about how awesome our God is. I remember that our problems are so small compared to Him and that He will never leave us in our greatest times of need. Just like Laura said above, I admire your grace and openness. I think we are all going to learn a lot from you. How to be strong, humble, and how to teach our kids a few very important lessons. Thank you for continuing to share your journey and know that we are here every step of the way. xo